Change and Time (Dedicated in Memory of Nelson)

The question before us is, does time change us or do we change with time? Some say there is no difference in the question. However based on personal experience I would say "we change with time".

I was born a gay man. From the earliest of memories I knew I was different (being different is for another blog). My feelings were not for the opposite sex and I was very open about it. Just ask my family. Everyone knew and I knew and nothing changed with time.

But in time I did change! Time did not change me! I never was a big follower of trends and people who let time change them. Some people went through the hippie movement, the rebellious movement, the gay movement etc. I always knew who I was, had my dreams and knew what I wanted in time.

From the earliest of days I wanted two children to be named Sherry and Shaun! I wanted a girl first and a boy after. I wanted them not too far apart so they could be friends growing up (that was a challenge) I wanted to be a leader travel the world and fall in love. I accomplished all my dreams in time!

I do believe there are two types of people, those that change with time and those that let time change them. I live with the ladder. Its not bad being either, its just understanding who you are and how you use time. Do you let it change you or do you change with it.

I believe successful people change with time and don't let time change them. I could be wrong but it's my perspective. It's based on how I’ve lived and how I evaluate others in my circle.

In the last month I have had 4 tattoos! It's not because it's hip today it's because I’ve always liked them but waited on time to do it! I knew I was gay but waited for time to come out (wrong or right is for another blog).

I knew I would fall in love and waited for time to bring that person to me! I wanted two cats, two dogs.. You get the picture. I waited for time. I can’t say time at times has not changed me. I loved the 3" heel shoes of the early 70's and bell bottoms! But in all honestly I still like it today! I never minded standing out and tended to go against the norm. So at times you may thing I changed with time but I always remember my best friend Nelson saying when I came out "I always knew you were gay, so why change"! He died before he could understand I was not changing, I just waited for the time I could be who I was!

It Was Time!