Being in Love Forever! (a must read)

In reading this morning news about:

Rosie O'Donnell: I'm in love

makes me wonder why we as a community want to accept the word marriage and then instead of being an example have the same divorce rates as heterosexuals! When I came out about 13 years ago I wanted a life the same I had with my x-wife but I fell in Love with Robert! I guess this will be short and simple! 

Rosie is in love but not "fell in love" There is a huge difference! We can "be in love" with many people. I mean being a chicken hawk, I could be in love everyday with every cute guy that gives me attention or the eyes to the nearest bathroom! 

But when I met Robert from that moment May 11, @ 130 pm I knew that he was it! I had hear of this magic but was never a believer! There was no longer a need to look, to search to ponder, to think! My heart, my soul, my every thought was him! 

He did not have money, he did not have a great job, he did not have material things to contribute to what would be our life together but what he has was special! He was as his friends call him "ROBERT"! One of the most amazing individuals I have met during my time on earth!

From the onset we had challenges, we came from two different worlds and yes, he will say we broke up every other day! But those were steps to what we have today. I have been "in love with Robert from the moment I met him"!

Elizabeth Taylor said it well, "I have loved every man I have married and still do, when you love, you love forever"! But she was "in LOVE" with only one.

We take the words "in love" lightly! One should be reminded of what the bible says about love and if we did we would not be "in love" 5 times or 8 times in our life! Some will say well Joe you have had two loves, so who are you to speak! I have to correct those people! I loved and still love Isabel, but I was never "in love" with her.

This is not intended to hurt her! She gave me everything I needed at that time and I know she was "in love" with me! It's something I should not have ever done to her. But people do it all the time as Rosie is about to do it again! People fall "in love" easily, when breaking up is so hard to do!

When I met Rob for the first 5 years we had 3 reminders our relationship was based on! It still is written 13 years later on the chalk board today! And we said no matter what "leaving is not an option"!

We fell in love and in time it kept growing! Every little mistake, added to our relationship! Every little win, adds to our  relationship! Every little fight, added to our relationship! These are not reasons to break up, these are reasons to grow!

You see it's easy to say "I'm in love"! It's another to prove it!

Dr Q.