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Saturday, May 12, 2012
A View From Two Queens: Two Edge (family) Sword!
A View From Two Queens: Two Edge (family) Sword!: Abilio: Family has always played a major part of my life! You can actually say that I have never been alone (different than feeling alone)! ...
Two Edge (family) Sword!
Abilio: Family has always played a major part of my life! You can actually say that I have never been alone (different than feeling alone)! I went from living with my mother to living with my x wife to living with Robert! Through the last almost 54 years I have always been surrounded by family, that is until my mother died.
And so for the first time in my life though I have Robert I don;t have a family around me! I am not one to live without a family around me! It becomes depressing and sometimes makes me thing of self destructive ideas. Loneliness is the worst disease to face mankind! You can feel it even when YOU do have family around! But you definitively feel it when you don't!
On February 3d 2012 I lost my mother and in the process due top greed my sister and brother too! It's unfortunate that family can't deal with challenges that face us all including disagreements on decision that effect those we love. You would think this would drive me away from my family, but it doesn't! It draws me closer for I want to say "It's ok in a family to have deep seated feelings and disagree should be encouraged so that you're heard"! Hudson is now a lonely place! Yes we have a huge home and every thing we need to live a comfortable life! But missing is a family and the drama associated with it!
So I need to go back to where I left my heart two years ago to come spend time with my mother! People who know me well, know exactly what I mean!
Robert:: I left home when I turned 18 and supported myself and lived either alone or roomed with friends. I love my family but unlike Joe it's not as important to me! I don't like the drama that comes with family!
But as I have aged and lived with Joe I understand the respect he has for family and the role they play in having a happy life! I totally agree with Joe that one has to be where one's heart is and that even with the drama we had with our family in Miami, it's the family that the creator has given to us!
My sister once said, you need family when all is said and done! She was right! Loraine seems to always be right even when I think she is wrong! It's after all family!
Till we chat again
Joe/Rob
And so for the first time in my life though I have Robert I don;t have a family around me! I am not one to live without a family around me! It becomes depressing and sometimes makes me thing of self destructive ideas. Loneliness is the worst disease to face mankind! You can feel it even when YOU do have family around! But you definitively feel it when you don't!
On February 3d 2012 I lost my mother and in the process due top greed my sister and brother too! It's unfortunate that family can't deal with challenges that face us all including disagreements on decision that effect those we love. You would think this would drive me away from my family, but it doesn't! It draws me closer for I want to say "It's ok in a family to have deep seated feelings and disagree should be encouraged so that you're heard"! Hudson is now a lonely place! Yes we have a huge home and every thing we need to live a comfortable life! But missing is a family and the drama associated with it!
So I need to go back to where I left my heart two years ago to come spend time with my mother! People who know me well, know exactly what I mean!
Robert:: I left home when I turned 18 and supported myself and lived either alone or roomed with friends. I love my family but unlike Joe it's not as important to me! I don't like the drama that comes with family!
But as I have aged and lived with Joe I understand the respect he has for family and the role they play in having a happy life! I totally agree with Joe that one has to be where one's heart is and that even with the drama we had with our family in Miami, it's the family that the creator has given to us!
My sister once said, you need family when all is said and done! She was right! Loraine seems to always be right even when I think she is wrong! It's after all family!
Till we chat again
Joe/Rob
Saturday, May 5, 2012
A View From Two Queens: Get more sleep and Energy
A View From Two Queens: Get more sleep and Energy: Robert can sleep on the train, car, airplane and even sitting in the hot sun! So articles such as this one do not apply to people like Rober...
Get more sleep and Energy
Robert can sleep on the train, car, airplane and even sitting in the hot sun! So articles such as this one do not apply to people like Robert! These people actually may sleep too much, tend to be relaxed and not have a worry in the world even if the world is collapsing.
Then thee those folks like me that need medication and all kinds of therapy and even then maybe get 4-6 hours of sleep! I have some tips I will follow and they are as follows:
Change you're bed sheets: Sven out of ten people say they get a better night sleep when the sheets are changed! Also make you're bed! Most people get relaxed when they climb into a dressed up bed even if done just before you go to sleep! (thanks mom you were right)
Take you're vitamins in the morning such as B12 can alter you're sleep patterns
No afternoon coffee: Coffee, tea or dark chocolate can effect you're needed deep sleep!
Nix naps: if you have a hard time sleeping at night, don't add to injury by napping during the day!
Ditch the smart phone TV or any bedroom lights an hour before going to sleep.
Practice letting Go: If you can leave you're challenges at the bedroom door you can sleep better.
Hire a handyman: You must have no noise while sleeping so a noisy radiator or fan cal effect you're deep sleep. Also any construction going on, get some ear plugs.
Avoid over the counter sleeping aids: These tend to make you drowsy but do not assist with deep sleep you need.
Strike a pose: Try yoga and relaxation before sleeping! It relax the body and mind.
Keep cool: I find this one interesting! The temperature you're room should be at night is between 60-68!
Take it from someone who has tried all of the above except yoga. Yes I agree I sleep better at 60 degrees. But keeping you're house at 60 degrees at night would cost us tremendous amount of monies for electricity here in Florida. Unfortunately we do not have dual systems where I can control the room from the house but its woreth looking into!
Other than that its advice as we all try to get a better nights sleep. By the way I am writing this blog at 4:30 am after sleeping an interrupted 6 hours.
Chat soon
Dr Q
Then thee those folks like me that need medication and all kinds of therapy and even then maybe get 4-6 hours of sleep! I have some tips I will follow and they are as follows:
Change you're bed sheets: Sven out of ten people say they get a better night sleep when the sheets are changed! Also make you're bed! Most people get relaxed when they climb into a dressed up bed even if done just before you go to sleep! (thanks mom you were right)
Take you're vitamins in the morning such as B12 can alter you're sleep patterns
No afternoon coffee: Coffee, tea or dark chocolate can effect you're needed deep sleep!
Nix naps: if you have a hard time sleeping at night, don't add to injury by napping during the day!
Ditch the smart phone TV or any bedroom lights an hour before going to sleep.
Practice letting Go: If you can leave you're challenges at the bedroom door you can sleep better.
Hire a handyman: You must have no noise while sleeping so a noisy radiator or fan cal effect you're deep sleep. Also any construction going on, get some ear plugs.
Avoid over the counter sleeping aids: These tend to make you drowsy but do not assist with deep sleep you need.
Strike a pose: Try yoga and relaxation before sleeping! It relax the body and mind.
Keep cool: I find this one interesting! The temperature you're room should be at night is between 60-68!
Take it from someone who has tried all of the above except yoga. Yes I agree I sleep better at 60 degrees. But keeping you're house at 60 degrees at night would cost us tremendous amount of monies for electricity here in Florida. Unfortunately we do not have dual systems where I can control the room from the house but its woreth looking into!
Other than that its advice as we all try to get a better nights sleep. By the way I am writing this blog at 4:30 am after sleeping an interrupted 6 hours.
Chat soon
Dr Q
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