The Need For Family and/or The Need For Friends!

Rob and I disagree on this subject! I should say we agree to disagree! Depending on his mood he sees a need for both. But importunately not all families are alike and its what causes him to waver on his deep hidden feelings!

My mother adored Robert, yes adored! Sometimes I used to kid with my mom that her love for ROBERT was stronger than for me. I never, ever felt that but was nice to know she loved and adored the man in my life!So much so that my aunt recently in tears said, Joe's mothered adored you! And yes those who know Robert know how easy it is to love him. Well unless you live with him! Kidding!

My mother always was busy with family when we were younger! We were with the Arraoil's in major street family fights in Taunton or the DeSousa's in Providence BBQ'g! They were family and it was one or the other until my aunt died in Providence, then things kind of settled down. Of course JW's came into the picture and family was forbidden and shunned because they did not share our belief! Stupidity!

As my mother aged family again became very important! You notice I say family not friends. You see friends play a role in our life, but when things get tough very few hang around. Most are very centered focused (especially gay friends)! family just does what it has to do! It's family!

However, though family will come to you're aid during crisis, its beneficial to have a relationship with them. But even if not, family is family! I have learned this as Rob's family embraces me and mine embraced Robert!

Of course, with my mom gone its changed! I have lost most, if not all of my family! And as my sister faces an uncertain future, it will only get worse on my side. But I focus on a large family Rob has. They like my mother have embraced me and I feel they like my mom adore me. Though Rob has some deep seeded issues, I feel very comfortable with them.

So it's very simple! Friends play a critical role in you're life! But when all is said and done, you better have a family or when you get older it gets very lonely!

Dr Q

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