14 years of bliss or misery?

Yup we are coming up on 14 years together, people often equate it to dog years and therefore we are coming up on 98 years! Well the question to us is it has it been bliss or misery?

Rob and I have different opinions on this! Overall we agree it's bliss but he often goes back to early years when to him it was misery! I have forgotten those early years! I tend to be very forward focused. unless I am on the verge of a breakdown then I can't help but focus on the past!

Rob's early views (by Joe): I was always breaking up (for good reasons)! He always refused to leave (for good reasons). I was very controlling (for a good reason, he was always a follower (for a good reason)! I drank allot (for a good reason), He always took too many drugs, (for a good reason)!

I was worried about my family though I did not show it, he was worried about his friends and he showed it! We worked this out! I loved sex too MANY times a day he did not. This was the hardest thing I had to adjust!I was in love, he learned to love (good for him, created stability something he never experienced).

Life took us across country twice and we learned what it's like to react to life's needs and to focus on new beginnings! This was easy for me and hard for Rob. In the process we lost allot of material things he just left behind (reminds me of my brother) but it taught him responsibility! It taught me to let go and give someone control of my life. It was preparing me for today as Rob has "Power of Attorney" over me!

To me it's been a blessed 14 years! The good outweigh the bad! The NJ registration, the Miami wedding, and the first time I met him is what I focus on! To the future I look at traveling with him and eventually dying together though the creator may have other plans, I tend to get what I want!

Joe's early views (by Rob): Everything is his way or no way (still today). I refused to leave because I knew it was a stable relationship (we vowed never to break up). two men together should not have a (girls or boys night out) without the the other one being present.

They say who you meet in life makes the person you are today! Therefore I am glad I met Rob as I am sure Rob met me! For today we have a thriving relationship because of each other.

Chat soon!

Dr Q